So this love thing. Everyone wants to be in it, around it and celebrate it even when it is not even theirs. What’s that all about? What makes loves so attractive? Why love? Why not happiness or joy? These were a few questions I asked a myself when I was younger.
Now that I have found love, I totally get it. Love is amazing. Love brings joy and it is happiness. Sigh. I could go on and on but would only start sounding more cliché. But love is amazing when done right. When I say done right. I mean done right… based on your personal specifications.
So if you want to be with a person who is educated, when you date a person who is educated, spend time with them and enjoy life with them… that is “ right”. Everyone’s idea of love is different. Once you accept that you are able to appreciate your love more.
I gave love a chance like 12 years ago and it paid off. As I celebrated 4 years of marriage with my lover sitting next to the Mediterranean sea in Spain, in my Diary Beth I wrote,
“For the next year, I promise to be a stronger lover, filled with more love to give”
Right now, next year and for years to come… it is all about love.
Remember my trip to Mexico? It was simply amazing. I spent my time relaxing and enjoying the beautiful weather. The time with friends and my husband was memorable and probably one of my top three trips of 2016.
The beach always gives me inspiration to write. Surrounded by sand, my thoughts are uncountable like grains of sand. I was happy in Mexico. My husband was with me and my close friends. It was a weekend away and the food was abundant. Even in those moments of happiness, joy and sheer luxury, I was reminded of my humble beginnings.
Honestly how did I get here? My journey, to me, has been all over the place. I feel like, I have almost done it all and it has gotten me to a space that inspires me to be a better woman. My family has been so supportive in my move from Biochemisty to Fashion Creative. Most of my all my husband has opened his heart to my dreams and has made them his own.
Yes, I can sit here and pat myself on the back but I won’t. Each step I have made that has lead me to more success if a result of God. Yes, God. I don’t mention God enough but this time I have too. Thank you G-O-D!
As I sat on my beach chair, I could only think about the next 3 months. Not even the next 5 years. Each day is different with new opportunities and gains. Staying organized, being prepared and being professional are just a few things you can do, that requires no talent but gives you an edge. I dedicate my time to being better, doing better and being the best in my lane.
Back to Back… another Drake anthem. But in my real life and more particularly this note in my Diary Beth, I wrote my feelings two days… Back to Back. July 20, 2015 and July 21, 2015.
During this transformative time, I was waking up at 5 am to head to the gym for 6 am, working closely with a naturopath and getting my health in order. I was exhausted because of the new routine and from the intense workouts under the direction of fitness mogul Lyzabeth Lopez, but everyday I made the effort to write in my journal every night.
I heard of this strategy of night time journalling somewhere. Basically, to prep for another day, you would write down what you would do the following day right before going to bed. It would give you a sense of purpose, intent and drive. It was odd but I tried it and it worked. I almost felt like I was commanding my brain on what to do and how it was going to be.
“ I prayed for an awesome day…”, I wrote on July 20. This was also something new I was trying. Literally praying to have an awesome day and it was working.
The following day July 21, 2015, I also had an awesome day!
Both nights I reminded myself that I would be getting up at 5 am and heading to The Hourglass Workout. Talk about determined. Even my husband was amazed to see me waking up this early to head to the gym. I was so focused on creating a new me. I am so happy I documented it.
If you are serious about making a change in your life, the first thing you need to do is start writing down the goals you want to accomplish. You can then begin to journal you progress, struggles and successes. It is truly fulfilling when you look back in your journal and see what you have accomplished or where you struggled. It makes the journey much greater and satisfying!
My brother, Mom and Dad we heading to the UK to attend his graduate school graduation. It was a powerful time for me because even though my little bro was graduating, it was my greatest accomplishment. My brother is my pride and joy. This was his moment. What an occasion for him… for me… while working on the new me.
Sometimes in life you have to take a step back and really examine who you are and what you want to accomplish. Most important you have to take account of how well your body, soul and mind are working together as one complete engine. I couldn’t tell you how many times I have done this but the return on self- examination can be great.
When I am going through a transformation in life, I document it. I usually enroll myself in my own self-developed program that fits my immediate life needs. During the time I wrote this note in my Diary Beth ( my name for my journal), I was going through the transformation. I was seeing a naturopath, enrolled in one of the best fitness programs in Toronto and had recently started a new position working in cancer research.
It was a new chapter for me. Lots of fresh starts and I needed to control my emotions, energy and keep myself in tact. The Hourglass Workout program with Lyzabeth Lopez was intense but worth it. I was tired all of the time but finally I was taking care of my body and it showed. Every morning I would get up at 5:00 am, in the dark, I was would bus over to the gym and put in the work. If you know me you know I do not like the dark or waking up early but I had to do this for me. I had to build the discipline and step outside of my comfort zone… at 5:00 am… in the dark… working out.
The next step was a Naturopath. I was tired of listening to my doctor ignore my testament of what was happening with my body. He simply was not listening. So I headed to a Naturopath clinic, owned by a woman that I admired. I followed the directions to a tee and I immediately became a different person.
Mood swings? Gone.
A totally new me with a new hope.
Thank you Jesus.
Looking back this note, I know exactly how I felt.
Slowly a change was coming…
This note post take my from diary named " Diary Beth was from my weekend diary writing. Usually on the weekends I spend my Saturdays resting and reflecting. During this time I try to focus on all the things I appreciate and value.
Spending a day resting makes a major difference in my life. It’s like taking a day off each week. This note is a “quick write” in my Diary Beth diary about my feelings on enjoying my time of reflection, family and my husband. I was happy, enthusiastic and optimistic.
Gratefulness is not a word you should only use around thanksgiving time. Everyday, I spend some time thinking about the things, persons and experiences I am thankful for. This makes me feel joyful and inspired to achieve more, do more and be more. Acknowledging life's grateful moments, compels me to look at all of the things that I appreciate and am thankful for. Doing this everyday is a good habit because sometimes we forget the things that enrich our lives.
TIP: Take an old jar, pencil and scrap paper. Everyday write down one thing you are thankful for.
Add it to the jar.
At the end of the month or even at the end of the year review all of the slips of paper and count your blessings.
Believe in yourself. It sounds cliché I know but believing in yourself is the first step to reaching your dreams and living the life you have always wanted. The skills and attributes that you have are the foundation to achieve the goals that you have set. If you do not have the skills to work towards your goals, collaborate with other people who have those skills.
Do not be afraid to ask for help.
Do you take a day to reflect or rest?
Is it a spa day, day with friends or family?
Day at the beach?